20060430

i don't want to hear, i don't know want to know.. please don't say you're sorry..

listening to madonna's song, "sorry." pretty good song.

went swimming yesterday. with goggles at 60yuan/9$cdn, perscription, -you can't beat that! i swam a kilometre, which is quite impressive. i owe it to the goggles. i love swimming!! went karaoke and dancing, and blah blah blah.

i have a week off started two days ago/friday. it is now sunday night beijing time. i've had a pretty good weekend despite the exasperation of a fellow teacher. honestly, i was a little peeved. it's really unfortunate, really..

tomorrow, i'm attending an english speech competition with Mary and Du Mei Qing. the day after we are going to see the mu dan (peony) flowers at Lua Yan, a city in henan province. apparently, we'll be late for it's bloom period, but, it should be beautiful nonetheless. lots of historical buildings, etc.

my hair is getting longer. and! because of the season, i'm shedding a lot. i really have to get a haircut soon. i should be getting one on wednesday. julia (a student) is staying over from the 5th, so she should go chill with me around the city. mary's also staying over from the 3rd, 'cause one of her mail friends from beijing is coming to stay in her apartment and she thought it would be better if she was not there, too.

what else do i have to say? well, i've done my 7th weekend here. that is 20% of my stay. again, it is an understatement to say that i am experiencing new things. i'm extremely in the right place, at the right time. i know this is where i would like to be at the moment. i'm learning new things, having time to find new hobbies, ie. cooking, more guitar.. hopefully more writing..

i'm definitely am learning mandarin on the way. i don't know what else to say.

20060428

My experience in China so far

i was writing to a friend who soon will be coming to china. here's the good stuff..

money: i brought only 1000yuan/150$cdn here, i could have used a bit more. you can probably bring 2000yuan/300$cdn and that would be more than fine. this is good for a month. when converting, i always think 100yuan=15$cdn or 20yuan = 3$cdn.
monthly local salary: local teachers make about 1000yuan a month, depending on their degree. make sure, as outlined in the contract, you just don't talk about what you make. "i can't talk about it," is what i say. i've been asked by a student and a local teacher.
toiletries: things like toothpaste, shampoo, and soap is much cheaper here than at home, so you should only have to bring one of everything to start off with.
food: food here is very, very cheap. for groceries, you need at least 400yuan/60$cdn a month, you can bring more than that if you want. the other day, i got a good meal/2 snacks for 2yuan/30cents at an outdoor market. new foods are always exciting. veggies are very cheap. you can get a good meal for two for about 20 yuan/3$cdn. junk food costs more (as oppose to in Canada), but who need junk anyway. you'll eat healthy here. people generally buy groceries for the meal the day of. i went to eat at a local teacher's house and she made noodles right before my eyes. that is, noodles from scratch.. mixed it, pounded it, then cut it. oh yes. and no tipping at restaurants. the ordering process is interesting. you shall see.
people love their veggies here. not so big on meat as we are in north america. you will try new things.
snacks: gum and candy is real cheap in china. the only snack item i would say you would miss is chocolate. the chocolate tastes very different. luckily, my mom made be bring some chocolate bars. they are still in my coffee table for a rainy day. lots of cookies and other snacks. you can spend all day in the supermarket or shopping centre. there is an abundant number of everything (except English books).
milk: milk in china is very different. it is very sweet here. they do not have yoghurt, but they have what we call "yop" in canada. a watery yogurt which is fantastic.
dictionary: bring a dictionary and perhaps a phrase book. i bought one from toronto, but it was missing some words that i was interested in finding. you can find lots of english-chinese dictionaries here, probably for much cheaper anyway.
chinese phrasebook: a friend gave me this. it was quite useful. "chinese phrases for dummies." it does not have any chinese characters in it. it is written using our english sounds, so it is easier for english speakers to use. it is also good, because it helps you learn the basics in the chinese language. i'm slowly learning and learning quite well. it is very good to learn numbers, and greetings.. and! "boo dong" = i don't understand.
bookstores: english books in bookstores are expensive. the english section is also limited, especially in my city (my city is similar size to ottawa).
bargain: when you go anywhere in china, it is best to go with a local speaker. they will help you bargain. you can bargain practically anywhere, but you can't bargain in some "supermarkets." supermarkets are like walmarts, they sell everything. if you do not bargain, you will spend perhaps 3 to 4 times too much.
tissue/napkins/kleenex: sometimes, public washrooms do not have toilet paper. it is good to carry a personal size tissue packets. warning: public washrooms can be very smelly.
location cards for getting around in the city/town: by taxi. you can carry cards with locations you'd like to go to in the city. you can ask your work supervisor about writing locations for you. i know one person who uses these cards. all he needs is a card for school, and one for bank. it is good to write down your contact numbers just in case you get lost, too. oh yes, in my city, the taxi fare is 4yuan/60 cents. if we go more than 2 kilometres, it will rise, by .10yuan. uh.. that is almost 2 cents. taxi is cheap.
the city bus: me and another foreign english teacher took a bus ride around the city just to explore, 1yuan/15 cents. that was really fun.
electrical outlets: the outlets here are different. although they are different, if you bring something that is made in china, it usually should fit. my camera plug works, but my haircurler plug doesn't.
keeping your money: i think the best way is keep your money in your front pockets. my fellow foreign teacher, she has a fanny pack (something around your waist) under her baggy shirt. people do carry purses, but i think it's really hazardous. a fellow local teacher had it snatched before. i also have a large over the shoulder bag that i wear across my body.
luggage: i can tell you now, that you will buy many things to bring home. i will at the end of my trip. do not pack full/overload two big suitcases. you will buy things to bring home.
mail: my fellow teacher said that mail that she had sent did not get home. i sent mail home a while ago, but, i'm not sure if it got there. i'll have to ask. to go to the post office, ask a local person to go with you. there is special envelopes for international mail. it costs maybe a few dimes cheaper than international postage in Canada.
bank: i'm not sure about the bank, i will be going next week for the first time. i get paid in cash, so i won't open a bank account. however, i need to pay off a credit card bill (airfare) so i have to figure that out.
canadian embassy: make sure you contact the embassy. they should know you're in china. another foreign teacher didn't want to be known his location, so he did not register. to me, i think it's important that canada knows i'm here.
http://www.beijing.gc.ca/beijing/en/navmain/consular/registration/index.htm
local teachers and college students: all of the teachers are very nice. some had invited me out shopping, eating at their house, parks.. especially if you are female i think, they will respond very well to you. they are very interested in talking to you. most speak english very well, few have lots of trouble. if your students are old enough, you can encourage them to invite you out. college students are very receptive. and especially if you're female. they take you everywhere, helping you do your own errands, even grocery shopping. one thing, if someone invites you out in china, that person pays. you can insist, of course.. at least try to. oh yes, students will ask you personal questions. it is normal in the culture. if you do not want to answer, just say it's personal. encourage them to ask questions, but of course, tell them that you will tell them if it is personal.
when you are walking with them, female students/teachers may hold your hand. it's sweet, but that's what they do.
utilities: i don't know if it will happen in your city/campus, but my electricity and water has gone out for a few hours a few times. it's really not a big deal. people are very careful about their electricity usage. when they are finished with an appliance, they usually turn it off.. except the fridge, of course.
buildings: i live in school residence. when the heaters are off and the electric heater is on, it may still be cold. the building is made of concrete and doesn't keep heat well.
trips: for my first trip outside of my city, we went to an ancient city called Xi'an. it was incredible. you can check out/see the pictures that i had sent you a while ago. it was quite cheap/inexpensive. cost me 1300yuan/200$cdn for 4 days, hotel and lots and lots of sight seeing. it was very beautiful, despite the air pollution. all 5 of us had a driver for two of the days, it cost us 500yuan/75$cdn total. also, a tour guide offered her services one of those days for 60yuan/9$cdn. it was amazing. we splurged well i think. it is not a lot, at all. right now, i'm saving for beijing in august.
swifter pads/tissue: i think this is important. they probably have it in the supermarket here, and cheaper, too. i brought my own knowing that a new apartment would be dusty. it is constantly dusty here.
chalk from the board: i got sick twice in three weeks until i realized i was inhaling a lot of the chalk in class. in canada, we have dustless chalk. in china, it's everywhere. your hands will be all chalky, and the dryness in your mouth will be the chalk, too. just be careful with the chalk dust. cover your nose and mouth when you are erasing. there are student monitors who are in charge of erasing the board, you can simply ask them.
public security board: within 30 days of your arrival, your school should help you register with the local police of your residence. this must be done if you want to travel out of your city. they mark your passport with something to indicate it.
webcam/internet access: electronics are not necessarily cheap here. it's sort of hard to ask about items when we don't know the language well. luckily, i brought a webcam with me. i should have gotten a microphone, too. i borrowed one from another foreign teacher. it helps a lot, being able to talk to friends and family. phone cards from toronto to beijing is cheap, but chatting on the net is cheaper. i have access at home, so i don't have to go to internet cafe or go to the school.
new hobby: expect to learn a new hobby. hahahaha, this is my interest now. i have a lot of time off. the first time i was away from home and got really bored, i learnt to crochet/knit. now i'm focusing on playing the guitar (i'm buying one from here for 230yuan/34.50$cdn, made in canada!) and cooking. i have a lot of time off! even though, i still go out about 4 times a week with other teachers or students.
nightlife: my city has some nightlife, that i have not discovered much of yet. there are however afternoon and few evening dance clubs. no alcohol. mainly as a physical activity. in my city, there are a lot of hotels and bathhouses. i don't know why. i've been to karaoke at a brazilian bbq resto, which is a slight change from chinese food, of course.

20060423

feng huan lieng park

so. yesterday, nothing much happened. i was supposed to meet my students, optional, to go to the park. no one came, so was free for the morning, which was great. i got to stay home for the cable guy, english channels! i will not see any until it's complete monday.

du mei qing, mary, and yang yong fang discuss good places for day trips for the may holiday. i say, sure whatever. for me, as long as there is little cost.

today, i woke up early, as usual, and went to meet lory, mary, and lory's students at the front gate. of course everyone was there including the hyperactive, expressive student who was just evidently having a hard time trying to contain himself. through the whole trip to the park, he was trying to tell me things, and of course you saw the physical outbursts of really remembering that i really don't understand. so, we made friends. i will teach him english, and he will teach me chinese.. and the guitar! damn, boys who sing in mandarin. hahaha.. it's lovely. reminds me of charles, my cousin, -minus the urges to eat vinegar packages mixed with whatever else.

lory brought a friend, who brought another. all teachers. they brought peter, a lovely boy that mary had met in the past. he was soooooooooooooooooooOo darling. he was very receptive to me, and understood English pretty well. of course, lory's students being from the art department don't understand anything i say.. well, very little. nothing but polite terms. mary and i wanted to visit the park more, but it was nearing lunchtime. we will do so another time.

we went to eat, very well! at a nice restaurant downtown. very, very good food. mary and i were stuff. i thought it was really unfortunate that we couldn't communicate with the family more. our translator, a local english teacher in the arts department unfortunately had poor english.

we went home to get ready for swimming with du mei qing and yang yong fang. i run around the house, putting my bathing suit on, sweeping (seems like i have to do that a lot in my apartment, i shed a lot, too), and getting things somewhat organized.

we go to the pool. it was a really, really nice pool. some students came up to mary and asked her where she was from. of course they can't tell that i am a foreigner. the pool, a little cold at first of course. i got to talk to some girls, and later some boys, while i get acclimated to the water. they were very keen, and some, were better than my own students at the college. the girls were 14 and 15, while the boys were 11 and 12.

i swam. and swam. i really suck, i thought. i stopped a bit. du mei qing lends me her goggles. it worked wonders. i feel way more confident with them. i will get them next time i go. they cost 60yuan/9cdn$. perscription is the word that must be highlighted. perrrrrscrrription goggles.

i went to du mei qing's place. mary went home for plans and yang yong fang had to wait for a friend. on the way, we stopped by a market and some snack stands. i cannot tell you enough, the snack food in this city, is sooooooooooooooooooooOOoo good.

i walked home her house in the dark, which was a bit scary. i could've taken a taxi, but i felt i could brave it. i walked briskly, quickly, passed the night workers who do talk to me. i just walk, i'm happy i don't understand. i come home take a shower (chlorine), and relax a bit.

i wanted to take an early sleep, but saw my cousin online and a friend. uploaded pictures and videos, please see them! good night!

p.s. one more thing at the park. to get to the park, we did not take the bus, as i had thought. we walked, -but what is so special? we walked on the highway. this freaked me out a bit, and mary terribly. but it was really good! hahaha.. oh yeah.. and when vehicles honk now, i don't move. i'm desensitized now mom. i will be trouble when i'm back home.

20060421

feng ming district

so, delightfully, ms yong yang fang invites me and mary to her house yesterday for today lunch. as usual, it is absolute great. i learnt a new recipe. after stuffing myself with two bowls of, get this, homemade wheat noodles, i get a little sleepy. i watched her twist and turn, slam the noodles, then put them in the pot to cook. mary, du mei qing, and ms yong talk about whatever when i am trying to get my composure, nodding off. pao la. too full.

we go off to play badminton for the second time this week (i have a renewed love for badminton now). i may get a racket here, maybe. we meet the cutest little girl. she is the daughter of a friend of ms. yong's. i hold hands with her while we all go for a walk.

we walk to find a bathing suit for mary. we hope to go swimming, all of us together on sunday. we walk into a textile store and find something that mary bought more expensive at bai feng supermarket. we refused the bargain price they set, (originally 160 yuan/24$cdn, now 95 yuan/14.25$), plan to search for it somewhere else, and find ourselves in a hidden part of our neighbourhood.

first, we visited ms yong's sister's salon, where i find out a haircut is only 5 yuan/75cents cdn. i probably will return. we walk down a street to find a busy quarter of snackers and local food. mary and i are fascinated. we find our xi'an delight, and this thing we'd call chinese stuffed pizza. it was all too good. we will go back to take pictures for sure. and eat yummy food.

20060420

rio brazilian bbq in jincheng

so. when i got on the bus today, i did not expect we would be doing what we did tonight. i got on the bus and mary tells me about something our fellow local english teacher had set up for us. we would be eating at a restaurant, being interviewed as foreigners, for publicity.

i can say, it was great. of course, it was free. it was something i was hoping to see, a little of in jincheng. a nightlife. i'm very excited!! but! i know that the prices there are not fitting for my local friends, even if i want to go all the time.

the place is a nice place, i thought at first. i got a box of matches, which is a first in china, to have matches in a restaurant. i glee with delight while mary tries to figure out my excitement. we wait for a long time, and we are totally confused as to what was to happen. they were setting things up, their camerawork and all. after about an hour, we are all starting to get uncomfortable just sitting around. we had moved to the upstairs of the restaurant and i become more.. excited. it was quite lounge-y (plus some urine scent, not pungent, very light), very colourful, very nice in structure. i saw the menu, very reasonable and got even more excited with pasta and pizza dishes. most of us opt for the buffet, minus birnie who can't eat red meat. i hadn't had so much meat since i came here. i felt a little gross after, well now. i guess i got really used to the veggies, and bits of meat that a bbq was just too much.

they shot us dancing, they interviewed us, they shot us dancing outside the restaurant, they shot us posing in front of the restaurant. it's hilarious. i regretted not bringing my camera. i plainly forgot, had thought about it earlier, but just forgot. they said they would give us copies of the commercial/tv ad. when it is ready. giddiness.

i think the thing that enticed me, mary and yang qing the most was that there was karaoke! we will definitely do it the next time we go! actually, they asked about birnie's birthday being next week. so! i think we are going next week again. ooo.. drinking and karaoke, my kind of mix.

oh yeah, i got to dance with these girls/my age. they were the hostesses/interviewers of the commercial. they were cool, but of course we did not speak the same language. i was tempted to pass on my phone number, but what good would that do. maybe i will see them again. maybe, i will not.

20060419

transport

so, today morning, i got up groggy. i got ready for school. changed my routine a bit, and took a shower the night before instead of in the morning, ie, groggy. i got dressed really nice, and went out for the school bus to take me to the other campus. i took a little longer after realizing that i could take a bit more time before i go to the bus stop, as the other teachers do.

so i walk to the main admin building and see no bus. i look over and see birnie there waiting, of course with his laptop and whateverness in a bag. i had thought i might have been late, but i confirmed on my watch that i wasn't at all. we wait. i can't really tell which teacher would be on the bus with us. we don't really talk to the local teachers, except for the ones who speak english.

a teacher comes by. she said, she'd ask someone. she hints that we may be riding on the blue truck/open hood, then runs to ask. she turns to me, and waves her hand, "here!" i tell birnie this and his first reaction was, "you wanna take a taxi?" it was hilarious.

we walked over and they showed us the school car that we were going to be on, not the truck. i really wanted the truck, but what the hey. mary got to ride on the blue truck, lucky for her!

20060404

my gosh, i think i'm developing feelings

i feel funny. am i starting to miss home now? i am not at the moment. i'm just reflecting, i think, now. i have all of this time. i need to write. fingers itch and mind gets moggy. i need to do something more active.

i imagine running. my excuse is the dust here. i should get masks. i should do a lot of things. apparently a gent from Cameroon who's working in the city asked me out for coffee yesterday night for tomorrow lunch. i said yes and delayed in recalling that one of my students was going to forward my contact info to some South African friend of hers. when she said it at first, i thought it was going to be a pen pal thing. apparently, i have heard of this guy from Cameroon. he's interested in a Chinese bride. i'm a little freaked by that. in many ways. i think it's ridiculous. i'll see how it goes. but of course! my mandate includes nothing of hooking up with anyone, nor do i want to. for a long time, i've felt that i've had enough.

and so i'm here reflecting. and you get to hear it.

what happen to that young cathy. in terms of relationships. why am i this way now? haha, more importantly, why don't i have feelings? i know it's ridiculous to hear, but in some twisted way, this is how i feel. hahaha.. will.. i meant good romantic feelings. i'm not swayed very well, and i think sapness is pure sapness. i must be picky.

i think i've had enough stupid relationships. relationships that i put myself horridly in. when recalling my favourite relationship at the moment, my only good one, i was so pure then. and this no feelings thing, is connected to some jaded feeling/air that i have. to me, the world is pretty black and white, i guess. why do things when they hurt you? nothing is important as you.

i try not to put myself in a situation like that.

when i went to xi'an, and went to the temple. i teared and controlled myself not to cry. i feel that i'm selfish all the time. i try so hard to step back and realize that it's not me, or any part of me. all that is negative is all we make of it. this is such an understatement. there are so many people who don't recognize this. i, just after a while, took so much in, and in the end, just let go. it was so easy to let go. and i want to be able to do this with everything.

[it is] some sort of bliss. i remember feeling it in high school in montreal. some state of nirvana. i was above. i had things in my life, but i thought what the hey. i was released from my childhood, from what i thought was horrible, and saw things differently.

and i stand in front of that temple, where it's been for a long time. where the day before i stood where people 1300 years ago stood, believing in something, praying for something, for someone. how can i step into something that is not myself anymore? why does it pain me, and why do i let it pain me? what am i looking for?

what does it mean to love someone? am i unit, or part of a unit? what is trust? and can we, be individual, independent and love?

20060402

4 day stint in xi'an

so! finding out that we have a break from working at the school, mary comes up with a plan to "skip town." she originally wanted to go to beijing, but we decided that it was to late to buy tickets. we only found out about the break two days before. train tickets require reservations. (note: i had quoted the wrong price for first class train tickets to my city. it was 30$cdn, and 200 yuan, not 200$cdn. 200 yuan is still pricey, considering that most only make a few times more than that a month.)

alright, so wednesday starts. that is the day the school track meet begins. it continued until friday. mary had earlier in the day went to see the opening ceremonies. she stops by. i was still freshening up. i got lazy and decided to go see the meet later in the day. up until that point, we all decided that all plans were a no go.

bernie knocks on my door. (mary and bernie are the other two foreign teachers who live in the same building.) he says, "we're going get ready." i said "okay," shutting the door realizing i don't know how long i have and where we were going. i pack in the half an hour. we're going to xi'an, wherever that was.

we took the long bus ride to xi-an. 8 hours of me weary and developing a horrid cough. we get to this musty xi'an city. the bus station all busy, with taxis and other various vehicles asking if we need service. we rejected the 2 seater with lots of bag space, stuffing ourselves in a taxi. all five of us, plus the taxi driver. we settle at the hotel, go eat at an awesome restaurant nearby, then go to bed. we are to wake up for 7:30 the next day.

mama hongmei slept in the same room as me for the first night. she took care of me 'cause i was coughing. she was really good. she is really good.

1st day in xi'an

we get a driver for two days, 500 yuan. he gets gas for 150, at least. that leaves himself 52.75$cdn. we go to the palace Huaqing Hot Springs (http://www.travelchinaguide.com/attraction/shaanxi/xian/huaqing.htm). very beautiful. made by an emperor for his love for one of his concubines. i thought it was beautiful. i was truly struck. the palace is made of mostly baths. she loved baths.

we then went to Qin Yinzheng's tomb(http://www.travelchinaguide.com/intro/history/qin/index.htm. it was under a large mountain of trees. it did not have trees or plants on it before, but after thousands of years, they came up. we walk into a performance. a sort of respectful offering of fruit and goods before the mountain for him. he was known for a lot of new chinese innovations: coins, tools,.. first Emperor of the Qin Dynasty who also was the first to be in control of a large China of the past, including Korea, Afghanistan, and parts of Japan. and hence,..

the Terra Cotta soldiers. http://www.travelchinaguide.com/attraction/shaanxi/xian/terra_cotta_army/index.htm. so Qin Yinzheng's reign was very successful and he wanted everyone to know it. it was common for emperors to bury their things with them. these soldiers were found by a farmer digging a well. he did not get much in return for telling the chinese government at first. after recognition from the british queen, he was compensated well and made custodian of this ground of terra cotta pits. these soldiers are not too far from the emperor himself. they were made to perhaps show how great his warriors were. exaggerated by height and weight, they were found with full colour. after 2 hours however, they were oxygenated and the colour disappeared. some of the pit is still uncovered so as to not to oxygenate them.

for breakfast, we had food in an alleyway shop. noodles of some kind. they didn't want me to have any egg in it 'cause i was sick. oh. the tour guide that we hired for the Springs, we hired for the whole day for 60 yuan. 9$cdn. we went to eat lunch at this place that was trying to rip us off. can you imagine 130 yuan for 5? actually, we had been eating an average 65 per person. of course, because we were westerners. imagine, 2o$cdn for 5?! we returned to the first restaurant that we ate at for dinner, for our 2nd dinner.

i slept in the same room as mary. hongmei bunked with yang qing. we opted for one less room.

day two

went to The Tomb of Princess Yongtai then of Empress Wu Zetian. very cool indeed. Princess Yongtai had a mysterious death. apparently married at 16 and claimed because of childbirth, she died at 17. her mother Empress Wu Zetian was a ruthless woman and is said that she may have killed her daughter as well as her son. Princess Yongtai's husband also died the same year. whatever is printed on her tombstone, perhaps is just a ploy to show differently. her tomb was pretty cool. i mean, it was cold! the only tomb that was saw that was opened, already had things stolen from it by grave robbers.

Empress Wu Zetian was buried with her husband. apparently she was a concubine to his father first, and eventually his wife. her husbands weren't very strong, weak actually, so she took care of most of the work. she studied and learned the ways of being an "emperor." she had her own lovers and was the mostly and only empress worth knowing of all dynasties. very good at her job also. her tomb was unopened. later emperors tried to open her tomb, but was discouraged by lightening and thunder each time. very neat.

we went to eat at a resto in that area and was taken advantage of. the meal from the night before only cost us 68 yuan, but this new place wanted to charge us 130 yuan. taking advantage of foreigners. hongmei yelled at them of course. a difference of 5$cdn, but what the hey, they were ripping us off.

we then went to a temple. and museum type one and one with a relic of a so called buddha. very cool! mary and i brought fruit. lots of people. we passed by some ladies between the temple and the other temple. actually, they mugged us. i mean, they just wanted to sell their incense, but they were forcing them into our arms and hands. it was really pathetic. they were incredibly persistent. hongmei got bogged down by this guy, and i tried to shake him off. so far, people who live in suburb/rural xi'an are living only on foreigner aid. apparently.

we got driven to downtown xi'an and saw a bit. mary, hongmei, and yang qing all bought hats. we went home.

day three

this was supposed to be our shopping day. or we thought. we went downtown, meeting gerry's (a contact's) wife at the hotel. we went to the bell tower and the drum tower. man, standing on the bell tower looking around the city, is amazing! the bell tower was amazing. inside. the doors, the walls, the art. and to think everything existed as is, some retouching, 1300 years ago. xi'an is beautiful and open (except! for the pollution.)

after the towers, we went to this open market that we saw. food and knick knicks. i got postcards and combs. that market was the Muslim quarter. we had our lunch there, which was pretty, pretty good.

we continued to the place we were in the night before, but another amazing site! just like in the chinese movies, i kept on saying. ol' time movies, shops, and ladies on the balconies,.. but not really ladies. lots of shops, stalls in the middle. i got stuff. hush..

it was overall a great trip. it was truly eye-opening. i'm rarely surprised, and this trip was an eyeopener.

my welcome bunch

my first week was terrific. of course, i had my students for the first time. in 5 days, i was invited out for 3 activities. it was really good. the first activity as to Tse Cho park, the one across from school. very, very nice. we just simply walked. it was beautiful. had a bridge, lots of water, a pond, an area to fly kites. lots of people fishing! on a thursday afternoon. also, flying kites! usually, you don't see adults flying kites in canada, but in jincheng! they fly kites simply because they love it. the students treat me to candy hawthorn. i wasn't sure what it was, but ate it anyway. i recall haw flakes at home, and recognize and now know the real fruit. it's just so good. i should get some at the supermarket. i regretted not bringing my camera. after that activity, i walked to jinnian supermarket, bought some things, and went home. that was the first time i went to the market alone. the streets, i realize, are very freaky! at that point, i was somewhat terrified of crossing the street. it was done, however.

the other activities, included me going to xin tai huan supermarket downtown, which was real cool. it was the first time i went downtown. i bought paper for letters, lovely paper, and two cds. one apparently a nicolas tse (canadian, one student tells me) and! a david tao zhe cd. i'm going to bring home a david tao collection, i think :P.

the first week ended with me having dinner at my house. my first year students cook for me. that's right, they cook for me. it was soooooooooOoo unbelievably good. i've got to tell you, food in Jincheng, China is soooooooooooooooOoo good. i haven't gotten sick of it at all. man, i've gotta learn to make food. [i will] die by my own cooking.

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truly beautiful

it was my second day of classes. i had 4 classes. they all went pretty well, and i've to continue to brainstorm what i'll be doing for the next couple of weeks. i got less and less nervous as time goes by.. as classes goes by. i'm basically doing the same lesson this week for all 8 of my classes. i have no idea what everyone's level is, but i'm slowly accommodating.

in between my two classes today, i had 2 group of girls making dates with me. i've never been invited to something like this, but i didn't hesitate to their invitation. i went home (i didn't have a third period class,) ate, put on my jeans and running shoes, got some cough medication from hongmei, and took the mini school bus back to their campus.

when i got into the bus, the fellow teacher says, hi. i get slightly flustered. i've been meeting a lot of people lately. the local English teachers, especially, are very warm. she was one of them. she knew me, but i just met her. i've been having teachers come sit in my classes, which makes me a bit nervous,.. but whatever. i find out that yes, they are indeed happy that i am here.

i get to the west campus gates and surely, my students from first year are there. they are funny. we walk down the street to the park. i've seen sorts of gazebos, beautiful ones. i didn't know they were in this particular park. everything is beautiful. the girls explain that town folk like going to this park after work and school. and it's true. people all over, walking, chatting, sitting, fishing, relaxing, folk flying kites (grown ups/adults), work out on the grown up friendly jungle gyms. i have to take pictures. i love this park. it's nothing i've seen before. i loved this experience. i will have to go back a couple of times.

tomorrow is friday, and i have another date with some girls on my own campus. they'll be visiting my place. these kids keep me busy. my last class for the week. some time off on the weekend. yay-ness!

oh yes. after dropping the girls off at the western campus, i found my way walking down to the "supermarket," bought some stuff, asked for tea and other stuff, and walked home. it's a long way, but i know i need the exercise. i've not been doing anything much physical. my legs are sore now.

oh yes. today i took videos of the crazy bathroom that i have here. i'm uploading them as we speak. it's crazy stuff. check out my links!

have a very good day!!

haha, oh yes. i can't read my own site, because i'm censored. i can't only edit what i've wrote, but i can't see my own site. what lovely luck.

people drive crazy here! hahaha, really they don't.. but they flow with each other. a scooter/motorbike may be going the wrong way on one side, but whatever. just accomodate. the honking, which is a lot, are usual warnings. "i am coming." our mini bus driver loves honking. it's not as threatening as how we would take it in north america.

oh yeah, one last thing. i swear. i'm walking on my own finally in this city, and i'm freaked out. i could never drive in this city. and! i could hardly walk. it's really scary walking across the street. people just go even if it's red. but! it just flowed. everyone was aware of everyone. all accomodating. again, different method.

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China 2006 - arrival - part 4 - schedules

written 20060315 beijing time

yesterday, i got up at 7:30 am. i went to bed at 10:30 pm, i think. i'm not quite sure knowing how i slept, when my habit is sleeping for no more than 7.5 hours. it's currently 4:49 am where i am. i went to bed yesterday night at 9:45 pm. so that's about 7 hours. i have to take a nap later on.

my first class tomorrow starts at 8 am, and i have to be at the staff [mini] bus stop at 7:55 am. i just got the bus schedule yesterday night from bernie. apparently they run between the campuses within 10 minutes of class start and end times. i have 16 classes (2 double ones) and an English corner (double) making classes a total of 20 hours a week. 45 minutes each but averaging about 40 students. they call it 2 classes, but it's actually 1 class with a 10 minute break in the middle. it's a 90 minute class.

my schedule is tuesday to friday, i have mondays off. i have 1 to 3 classes a day. while the morning starts early, after 2 classes, i have lunch at 12. the whole school shuts down from 12 to 2:30 pm, as bernie says. the only afternoon class is from 2:30 to 4:10. oh, i do have school on monday.. the English corner is from 4:30 to 6. at 6, there is the last bus that leaves west campus to the main campus, where i am living. if i miss any of these buses, i've to go home by taxi, which cost about no more than a dollar each ride. communicating that i need to get back to the main campus will cause momentary confusion, i suppose.

a first free morning settled

i got up early yesterday as i said. made a nice breakfast (pao with sweet bean paste, and a banana.) brainstormed what i'd be doing in the first class. tried to watch t.v. (all in mandarin). had lunch. noodles. instant noodles, but of course, added veggies such as onions, grape tomatoes, some chinese green, mushrooms, smoked beef, yumm. worked on the first class lesson again. it was already afternoon. hongmei had said that she'd come in the afternoon. having thought i finished my lesson planning (didn't know it was rather a 90 minute class than a 45 minute class,) i decided to take a nap at 2. when hongmei finally came to pick me up at 3, ringing my doorbell. she forgot to take my phone number the day before and also had asked Mary from upstairs to knock on my door. when i was napping, i recalled someone knocking, but i wasn't sure if it was for me or not.

being back in my jammies, i let hongmei in, and let her show me how to work the shower machine. i didn't realize that i had to plug that big thing in. it had to be plugged in for an hour she said. she let me know that the plumber/water guy would be coming by later. Mary would watch my apartment while we were out. i had a couple of things on my list to get, and without asking, she brought me a towel. also, some garbage bins that i said i would get the day before.
we went to her office to find out about the bus schedule and got on the bus. a maintenance worker came in the office and she introduced us. he was really surprised when he found out that i was the new English teacher. hongmei later explained that with the word "foreign," he actually expected me to be "foreign." likewise, i thought he was a student. a lot of young people that i have encountered have duties i normally see older people doing in Canada. more on that somewhere else.

a lot of the reactions i get is, "you look Chinese." i just say, "i know" or "i'm Vietnamese." i don't know how to explain it, but i've learnt the word for Vietnamese in Mandarin. i think i sound defensive that way. am i just explaining so they know more? or am i being defensive? that is a Montreal question.

my meeting with the directors of the English department.
it was good. short. brief. Ms Yang and Ms Tscho (i think) were really nice. they gave me the text i could use as a reference. they said the students don't like it. really, they want me to work on their oral speaking (my class is oral communication,) with almost any topics really. regarding topics, Ms Yang mentioned that students can talk about anything, just that i cannot steer them to my own personal beliefs, which is okay. good teachers should let the students steer the discussion anyway, i think.

i didn't sign a contract yet. which is strange. i will email this fact to hongmei later. also, bernie told me that we are to pay for the electricity. i remember slight having emailed hongmei asking about this. when i get my internet today, i'm going to review those convos i had with hongmei. about pay too. i have to review everything i have, because it's all very slightly off, which is not too big of a deal.

i met a local English teacher. i forgot her Chinese name. of course, names in any language other than English and French, i can't grasp very well. she tells me her English name, which is Mary. i have to write down her Chinese name next time i see her.

i saw my office, but! i don't think i'll be using it. there is a couch in there, which i might use to crash.. if ever! well yeah.

english corner.

so! we walked into my first school setting in Jincheng. Bernie was heading it. we get into this building with obviously a plumbing problem, which is normal of it apparently. we walked up the two flights of stairs and into a classroom with students all standing, some on chairs hovering over something at the front of the room. Ms Yang, hongmei and i slip onto the left side of the bunch and watch for about 5 to 7 minutes before Bernie realizes we are there. he was showing them pictures, first of objects in this home in vancouver, pictures of his office in vancouver, and then pictures of him and hongmei's family hanging out two weekends ago.

the students really love it. about 50 students were there. i spotted one male student. at least two students had electronic dictionaries. some students were really short. some pale, some tanned. again, people of minority come in all different shapes and sizes, not the generic mainland chinese that we see in Toronto. this is concluded also from when i went to small French town in Quebec. before getting back to the mini bus getting home, about three students stop me and welcome me to the school. they seem to be very welcoming of "foreigners" to the school. also, from my meeting with the directors, i finally understand, i am one of their only resources (as a teacher) to learning English. my students are all English majors, mostly at the beginner level.

the return to my apartment. showering. my toilet.

i came home to about 4 or 5 men in my apartment including Mary. after realizing that i can't speak Mandarin, they finish their work and had the computer teacher (who was pretty okay with English) communicate with me that i can't sit on the toilet yet because of the wet plaster, and that i can't put toilet paper in the toilet. he also tells me that he'll come back the next day to hook it up since he needs to drill holes or something.

while the computer teacher (the only English speaker) was upstairs, another fellow tells me something in Mandarin. he tells me then points to English words and Chinese characters and gets me all confused. i can't communicate with him. i later find out that he just wanted to say that his English was poor. i surrender. haha.. man, i've got to learn some Mandarin.
trying to catch some kiddie channels. i think it works. i saw spongebob in Mandarin yesterday night. very briefly while making dinner.

the shower apparatus actually took more than an hour. the shower head ill-situated. it could be more to the right. the amount of hot water is limited really, so i can't take too much time. which is okay.

Birnie showed me that my plug for my camera is made in China, so i could use it here. that is exciting news. the only thing i can't use, that i brought, was my hair curler. a pity. i don't know if it's chinese, but i'll check it later. he showed me how the washer works, too.
i watched some circus stuff, which was crazy funny stuff.

oh yeah, my mom and my sis annie, called me each twice. i went up to Birnie's two nights ago to email my family my contact. apparently my mom was freaking out for a couple of days.
my thighs and calves are bigger. i think? lack of running around at the restaurant/working? but i've been eating less here? blah..

trying to get directions to the supermarket, but hongmei just says it's better to take the bus/taxi. i need the walk i should tell her.

China 2006 - arrival - part 3 - the train ride

written 20060316 beijing time to the station

from the hotel, we took a not too long ride to the "train station." i tried to figure out how to get around and about if i were to go to beijing by myself. i realize, i will never be able to do what i did at St. Joseph in Quebec. i don't know then language. after taking the train, it confirms this. so more about the train in China experience.

as as soon as got off the cab, a woman asks us if she can carry my suitcase. this is the second incident of something like this. paulina, a friend, had mentioned something like this when she went to Thailand. the woman asked for 15 yuan. she was probably as old as me and hongmei put together, and desperate. she followed through baggage check (which was really not baggage check, more like we do it for doing it.), and asked and carried my 67.5 lb bag. it could've broken her back.

so it snowed, which was beautiful. people scattered. it wasn't a typical canadian train station. it was a typical old china train station with stands of food and people carrying their belongings in whatever bags that should not break. rice bags, old gym bags, garbage bags, luggage bags,..

we waited for hongmei's friend to arrive. which he did. he didn't speak English. he was friendly and helped with my bag. closer to the entrance of wherever we were going, someone else asks to take our luggage, also expressing that to go to our platform there are many stairs up and down. we finally oblige. only 10 yuan now, and we did realize that the stairs were steep. that amount equates to 1.50$ cdn. he brings my luggage into our cabin.

on the train

so we get a little cabin of four beds. we share with another person whom we don't know. a comrade. again, no English. hongmei and i chat, then hongmei and her friend chat. i look out of the window. more people carrying their stuff in "bags." i take pictures. pictures of the gi-normous kiwis. they amuse me. i take a nap.

hongmei tells me that we are taking first class, which cost 30 yuan one way. calculating it, it works out to 4.50$ cdn. our trip is 13 hours by train. she explains. 3rd class includes a seat that you would have to sit in for 13 hours, at 1$ each way. 2nd class includes a doorless cabin, shared with 5 other people, not two bunks per wall, but 3. most can't afford 1st class.

i enjoyed the airplane ride better, except for the bed on the train. i was entertained on the airplane, with movies, radio stations, food service. the train was humbling. as a colleague here at the school says, if you go to China, it will be a waste if you don't take the train.

the washroom was literately a hole in the floor. great i thought. napkins were offered by hongmei.

hongmei also had to the tickets from beijing to jincheng beforehand from a friend. they were first class and would be hard to come by on the same day.

also, hongmei, coming to beijing to pick me up from jincheng, took 3rd class. i don't know where to situate myself to that.

China 2006 - arrival - part 2 - in beijing

written 20060315 beijing time

and so i landed. got confused with all the signage in the airport. when you are out of your familiar, the environment is completely different. the air is different. methods, i mean. methods of directing people is different. it took me about 45 minutes to finally get out of check out and baggage claim.

bus trip

we finally met, me and hongmei. she was near the end of the line of people waiting for businessmen and loved ones. of course, her sign had my name. i realized that i was exhausted from the 13 hour plane ride. so there i am lugging my things around, wondering what we should do next. eat or go downtown beijing. we settled on taking the bus downtown, bus #2. i tried to recall all of these traveling hints thinking i'd be doing this on my own eventually. i can't i finally realize, i will explain in length a little later.

in the bus, hongmei gives me a personal size box of milk. milk! i thought that was great, but i knew it would not be as cold, knowing that she too had to travel to Beijing. the milk was sweet. i didn't like it much. so, we sit for a bit more than an hour, and chatted. we passed by a lot of "fat" buildings. knowing that Beijing has a lot more people than Toronto, i tried to compare. their buildings are more fat than tall. there are more "open spaces," much more spaced out than the claustrophobic Toronto.

we get to our stop. i look over to the beijing subway entrance, which is cool. lots of honking. we get off and just as i've been warned, some people came up to ask if they could offer some service. these drivers wanted to drive us, free of charge, to a hotel. why? they worked for the hotel. i'm looking at hongmei hoping she knows how to handle this. i asked her if she trusted them. she said, "i don't know." in the end, talking to them more, we took their offer.

the hotel and eats

they charged hefty in comparison to everything else in china. 55$ canadian. i mean, we're talking about how a dish of good food costs a buck here. hongmei went to find a cheaper place, but no luck. our room was alright, the bathroom system is funny. the toilet is in the shower area, so it gets wet when you take a shower.

we actually each take a shower and decide to take a nap before finding food. it was sweet. hongmei asks the doorman (doorboy, seems young to me) for a place to eat. he points down the street, which becomes and alley. we ended up eating in a little shop. very good food, but i soon realize that they have no laws for smoking indoors here. i'm enfumagated. hongmei points out the kettle over the fire in the centre of the room. it's very customary of older shops. the meal cost 3$ cdn. we had three dishes with lots left over.

the mall

we take a walk around. we end up going to this mall. it's really like a supermall. we walk into an area with bras and underwear. "they're on sale," hongmei says, and we shop. hongmei makes a purchase and we proceed further into the centre. shoes. think sears shoe section. times 25. it makes me a bit weary as to which part would have the best quality shoes. all funky stuff. zahra would love it. she would just love it. we proceed into the rest of the mall. make up, suits, shirts, this and that. and they close at 10pm. it's crazy stuff. we walked out finally and walk to a bigger street. there was this other centre even more tempting to get into. i knew i didn't want to buy anything yet, or everything that i saw, so i just opted to go back to the hotel. while hongmei was brushing her teeth, i crashed. i closed my eyes. when i opened them, it was dark and hongmei was already in bed.

beijing bookstore building

so! we got up at 7am. i had gotten up in the middle of the night at 4am and just forced myself to sleep. i was getting adjusted to the time difference. we had complimentary free breakfast at the hotel, which was real simple foods. i had a hard boiled egg, despite all this chicken flu stuff. there was this go chow wai that was round, which was good.

the bookstore was not too far, open at 8am. hongmei had asked for directions. we turned the corner, and i am flabberghasted. this building didn't have a bookstore in it. this building was the bookstore. it was huge. it was definitely bigger than toronto's "world's biggest bookstore." we walk throught the 2nd set of plastic door coverings (the first at the mall the night before,) and we found reception. there were about 4 attendants behind the counter. i recalled at the hotel, there were a couple of staff at the door as well. i realize that there are always a lot of workers around, no matter the task.

we proceed up to the escalators. i realize that this store was bigger than the one in Toronto. we get into the audio/visual section. very big. lots of product. hongmei was looking for software for another English teacher. i wander looking at teaching esl software, then to movies and music. vcds for about 1-2$ each. i end up getting 2 that i eventually realize i can't play on the computer they gave me. i contemplate on getting a vcd player. live norah jones and eurythmics. we check out the esl books section. i get lots of books. we leave the building and take a lot of pictures in front of the building.

walking back, i take more pictures and a video. we got some street meat. lamb kebobs. i don't eat lamb, but didn't refuse it when hongmei offered to treat. it was great! got pictures of that, too. bikes everywhere! and pictures of that, too. i should have but didn't take pictures of probably 200-300 bikes stationed outside the mall we were at.

we get back to the hotel at exactly 12noon when we have to check out.

oh yeah. chinese people blow their nostril innards into the street like it's common habit. gross.

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China 2006 - arrival - the flight

written 20060314 beijing time

after seeing my family goodbye.. hahaha.. i walked back into the airport to the currency exchange office. at check in, we asked where travel insurance can be bought. they pointed down the hall, which we followed where we got lost. we asked two execs staff members about where to buy travel insurance and they pointed downstairs. we then asked the currency exchange box office that we were already standing by about insurance and they said that they sold them. made me wonder if these exec people know anything. yikes.
they didn't have any on hand so they told me to come back in 15 to 20 minutes. it was already 8:15 am so i told my mom that i'd walk them to the car. annie had work, my mom had work, and my dad needed sleep. i also wanted to see my dad who was waiting in the car, before i left. so we said our goodbyes.
after getting my travel insurance which is good for a year, i made that long walk into the gates. down the hall, through carry-on check, down the escalators, down the wrong hall, back down the wrong hall, through the right hall, found out that at 9:10 am people have not yet boarded the plane, sat down and waited. lift off was at 10 am and sat humbly as to what was going to happen next. i've never been on a large plane before, going overseas with so many people.
i'd say this is my first real trip on a plane. the other trip is with people i knew so i didn't pay attention so closely. the pilots got on first. all four of them (this is a 13 hour trip). eventually, the elite/first class people got on, followed by the accessible and children, then rows 33 and up, which is me!
i sat. put my coat and jacket in the overhead compartment. waited. was tired. the night before, zahra love came over. actually it was a long day. i met up with kathy, zahra, and john. i went to bed at about 1 in the morning, waking up at 5:30.
i sat. the person assigned to the next seat came finally and said, "Nee how," which is "Hi, how are you?" in Mandarin. i smile and try to nap again. he smelled heavily of cigarettes. eventually, we talked. he didn't speak English much, but he understood my purpose of going to China, and i knew his.
i must say, being on airplane is not so bad. yes, the worst part is comfort i think. i tried to push my chair down as much as possible. the best part of them (air Canada) trying add comfort is the nice blankets that they give us. i thought it best not to take it home, but i thought of it..
they gave us headphones. pride and prejudice couldn't keep me awake. i know the story already and i was really tired. the "radio" stations that they have were probably compilation cds that they were playing, obviously over and over again. some retro stuff i liked, and some alan cross recorded shows for air canada. corpse bride played, too, as indicated online. it still sucked. they played documentaries and a chinese movie, which i couldn't understand. the English words were too little.
waiting for the washroom, a woman and her child passes by and says something to me [in Mandarin.] i think she was trying to be humble but expected me to let her son go first. i don't like this, and insist that the woman before me is going first. i don't give her my turn either, but apparently the elderly woman after me lets the woman's son go first. i think it's really ridiculous. really ignorant. i think the boy's gotta learn to wait. there's bad parenting right there.
the food was alright. the first meal wasn't that great. white meat chicken and potatoes in some thick gravy. raw salmon salad. vanilla gelato. i opted not to have beef on the plane for some reason. second meal was noodles in a cup. snacks. rice and chicken. lots available to drink. alcohol, too. i had spicy clamato, orange juice, water, orange juice.
the trip didn't seem that long. lots of naps. i felt better by the end of the trip.
of course, i was above clouds, my favourite!! i look down and all the grooves in white and such. it looked like there could be life on the clouds. the sky. i saw the moon quite early in my trip. the sky. it was light, then dark, then light again.

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puking and the metro

food poisoning on the road

hey folk, i'm physically weak. being subjected to food poisoning really sucks. i will not have steak for a long time. especially ordered anywhere near rare. memories of pukin' suffice.

yesterday i was on the montreal express from toronto, and i got sick again. on my weak stomach, i puked out all the best pad thai i had ever. earlier that day, i took the go train and bus to hamilton, and the express bus back to toronto from hamilton. i felt alright, and knew i wasn't up in my best. i got back to toronto with only one meal in me, plus beer. i wasn't sure if i should eat for the sake of eating. my stomach needed food i knew, but [i] opted not to get anything. it was a good decision.

two hours into my trip to ottawa from toronto, i started to get sick. i barely made it to the bus bathroom, and i puked all over the seat, most of it in the hole of course. i'm telling you, because this is important. in depth in the adventures of me.. well, anyway.

i was sitting right behind the driver, so i was sitting at the furthest seat from the bathroom, and i was sure to have thrown up in the aisle, landing some noodle on someone's foot. it could've but didn't happen. well, the second time was basically the same. i finally put on tiger balm. it comes in handy.

we got out of the bus, realizing that the driver did indeed rush his way. i knew then that i was going to give them a complaint letter definitely. i totally have been using their services many times, and i've never had a problem. but! for me to have to vomit, induced by a cowboy driver, wasn't how i pictured spending my evening.

i got to montreal finally without anymore gross stuff coming out of me, knowing that i would be early for the metro/subway system. so i sat. continued my scarf for my grandma.

the metro

transit fare is the same in toronto $2.50, which is expensive in toronto, but more expensive in montreal in comparison to the price of their metropass.

i love the metro. it is indeed quite different than the subway system in toronto. not just the bigger platforms, artistic value of it's construction, smaller cars, but!! the people who ride them. montreal is the place of students. for the independent in love with romance.

my cousin told me he'd pick me up, but i said i'd take the metro. my reasons. i'd stay in all the days i'd be here anyway, it would be nice to take the metro for at least that day. fine gentlemen waiting on the platform.

it is ridiculous. so i'm there with vomit in my hair (not apparent), waiting for the first train to come, crocheting, exhausted.. i move my backpack from the seat next to me to my feet. there were more and more people on the platform. two minutes later, someone sits next to me.

he asks for the time. i got confused the first time he asked me. my french is mediocre. i said, "oh," and got my phone. we started talking, and in french! yikes!

okay.. well after i get off the metro.. everything winds down..

home in montreal

i found my way to my aunt's place. slept. ate congee. emailed. watched chinese dramas. crochet'd. blog.

tomorrow visiting grandma.

had indian dinner with friends on sunday. pictures up when i'm back from holiday!~

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wastin' time, i am i am

i don't feel very good right now. i spent four days setting up my family pictures chronologically to the best of my knowledge, and a family member accidentally [just] dropped it. i understand, but.. arrgh.. i know i'll fix it.. actually, i might not? i can't possibly be the only one who took an interest in fixing it up all nice.

besides that, everything is going well. i had a bit of my going away cheer today. the last day with my mississauga tutees. their 77% alcoholic chinese hard liquor was not at all tempting, not even to the sips they got me to take. more and more people coming out on sunday, which i'm incredulously happy about.

i'm happy that i'm welcomed well with my family in ottawa and montreal. i can't wait to go to both. that reminds me that i still have two scarves to make. the one for khalid is done. all hot red and done.

i'm supposed to pick up my visa tomorrow, but i'm working the lunch shift for a friend, so i won't be able to get it.. unless i'm off before 3.. but probably not.

i waste a lot of time in front of the computer. cursed able techie uncle who fixes computers that i mess up.

i should go do some creative writing.. or reading.

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"leavin' it to change," a. aguilera

oh! today is tuesday. that means i'm getting my working visa on tomorrow. it is the last thing/important document i need before my departure. i'm currently in my last full week in toronto. from monday i'm going to be in hamilton, montreal, and ottawa. this sunday, i'm going to an indian restaurant with friends.

every day is a step closer to a welcomed new change. i've actually been planning this trip for 4 years after realizing that everything, is really in my own hands. my reality, that is. i didn't know exactly what i wanted to do with my life. and, as the days get closer, i'm realizing myself even more. myself, being who i've always been trying to exude.

i miss playing the flute in a band. i miss written/creative publication. i miss volunteering. i miss far away friends. i miss the summer, lazing.

i really do appreciate a lot. and to some dismay, lately i've been feeling, am i just leaving for the thought of leaving. unfortunately, it does seem that way to some (and maybe a bit to me.) i have been planning it for a long while. i guess, it's an opportunity. of course it is.

i'm packed, and almost ready to go..

oh yeah, i got a camera. still dormant. i mean, waiting for my friend to find cheaper deal for me. yes. a camera. yay!

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should we ask to receive?

i just got my visa and working visa today, in my jammies, at the door. apparently i have to go to the embassy to get the visa processed or something. i would have gone today, but annie has my metropass, and i have to wait.. i have to work.. so i'll leave it for tomorrow on my break. then, i'm getting my ticket on saturday, before work.

i'm very indifferent now. i know it's going to be a big change, and as i told my love Zahra, that i can't wait to be back. and i'm excited. i'm excited of being able to go away to drift into cracks of humble-ment, again, then, coming back putting what i've learnt into practice. my new adventure will be no doubt crazy.

so yes, i can't wait until i'm into my late 20s. i'm only 24, but being 27/28 is something different. different wants and needs. settling, having all my resources at full. i've decided to settle in toronto when i come back. it took me 9.5 years to realize that i want to do just that. before that, for a very short while, that i could be anywhere. and before that, i had no doubt wanted to return to montreal. and montreal, i may still want to be buried there. it was an absolute, but thinking about it.. i could be buried here, too. i know it's a weird thing to think about.

i found this website: http://www.youtube.com, which is really cool.
saw the mtv movies' best kiss of 2005, and teared like a baby. toronto has made me become a sap. that damn ryan gosling and rachel mcadams.

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quand je pars

28 days until i make the grand leap. still haven't got my tickets, but will do so next week. i did my final purchases for the trip today. including gravel, bepto pills, tissues travel size, yarn for my last few scarves to make before i leave :(.. i also got this photo album for my family pictures. it holds 440 photos, but! after filling it up, i realize i have to get another one. i'm going through them and i'm laughing and trying to make sense of us in it. i mean, we look so different. i know it was not too far away, but so much has happened.

on the 27th i'm going to hamilton to visit khalid. it'll probably be a lone trip. haven't seen him much, except for the times he'd pick me up from somewhere, we'd exchange short chit chat, then he'd drop me off at home.

he told me, and it had occurred to me that i should see as many people as i can before i leave. i don't need to. i know this. to me, farewells are essentially goodbyes. even though i don't know when i'm coming back, i will see them again. yes, it'll be 10 months in china, and more of whatever number in vietnam.. need to print out that vietnam visa form tomorrow. [but yes, an imprint of how our loved ones are before they leave would be nice..]

tomorrow night is zahra's party. i haven't been out much.. really, and i really enjoy her house parties. i will miss her.. ..

tonight, i came home from work, ate, filled album, watched tv, checked net, cleaned the bathroom (kathy is coming over for the night tomorrow). i've been getting plenty of the people i care for the most in the past couple of weeks. except for john. i have to call him in the next week.. :(

i'm going to miss many..

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question of the day

why do we depend on others to make ourselves happy?